Did you know that people feel more lonely during the holidays? And that reports of depression actually increase? It makes sense, there is so much emotional stress during these times. The best party to be at for NYE, all the FOMO. All the people posting their successes and how awesome 2019 was, yada, yada, yada. Not to mention all the junk food and alcohol. And this constant “jolly” spirit that is forced down your throat 24/7. It’s like you HAVE to be happy. And if you are not, something is wrong with you.
Now, please don’t take this the wrong way. I like some aspects of holidays. It’s a time for reflection. Time to spend together with your loved ones. A time for peace and calmness. But I hate many parts of what holidays are today. The materialism, the gift buying, the empty hype, the over-indulgence.
In any case, I’m very happy and grateful I’m able to bypass all of that with a 10-day vipassana meditation retreat. No internet, no social media, no talking. No meat, no gym, no Hustle. Just a ton of meditation and reflection. I’ll do my best to work patiently and persistently to re-center and sharpen my focus for new exciting challenges of 2020.
Here’s are a few tips for you if don’t have the same luxury:
#1 Check social media less often or don’t check it at all. Not comparing yourself to others or paying attention to their one-sided portraying of reality will make you much happier and calmer (yes, we all only show the good stuff on social media).
#2 Focus inward, not outward. You only compete with yourself. How was the year for you? What challenges did you face? What and who are you grateful for? Are you still on the right path or is a change of direction needed? Be brave and dare to explore.
#3 Find quiet time. Go for a long 3 hour walk. Be alone with your thoughts. Listen to them. What are they saying? The pace of live today is INSANE. Use the chance to slow down. If you’re very quiet, you might hear your inner wisdom. The truth is, you know exactly what to do.
The last thing I want to share is in regards to #2. I have very high standards for myself and the people in my life. It’s sometimes difficult for me NOT to compare myself with more successful people/friends. A naive part of me secretly believes I should achieve everything – by tomorrow! But in taking my own medicine (#2) I’m making peace with myself and trusting the process.
So here’s one thing I’m insanely proud of, and nobody can take that away. Our team and our service at Hustler Marketing. A few weeks ago two existing clients came for seconds. People love working with us. Not directly with me, Bostjan. They love working with our team, with Hustler Marketing. This is beyond amazing and makes me grateful and content. And so proud of our rockstar team
If you want to learn more about surviving Xmas check YT “bosslifehacks how to survive Christmas”. Oldie but goldie.
Now I’m off to meditate, send positivity and encouragement my way!
P.S Do you agree or disagree? What are your thoughts?